Why difficult people don’t exist

Sometimes you would doubt it, but everybody has developed at least a few positive qualities since they were born. It colors their behaviour and the way they interact with other people. Just ask yourself what it is that people have always appreciated in you. Always, because your core qualities have...

Wine and the art of receiving

If you ever go to my parents house (on a reasonable hour), they will always want you to share the table with them to have a chat and to stuff you full with food and drinks. Older generations are often afraid that in these times of economic recession and high turnover rates,...

What is possible?

How we unconsciously view the world, is generally based on a fixed or growth mindset. People may say they want to be happy and prosperous, yet a fixed mindset may not be able to handle an increase in wealth, love and abundance. We may not see the possibilities that are...

Each bird sings its own song

Emotions are closely linked to the brain and nervous system. If I’m walking down the street and someone suddenly jumps in front of me, I know I’m in trouble and I will feel I want to fight, freeze, or run away. Emotions can influence – and are influenced by – what you think, feel...

How to write your own death letter

Let’s just pretend you won’t be falling off a cliff, or die in a car crash and that when you grow old, you’ll have some time left to think about your life. Instead of writing a bucket list and thinking about your future, writing a death letter to yourself is a...

4 simple questions from Jung

One way to find out more about yourself is through personality testing. I’d like to introduce you to an interesting personality test, treated sceptically in academic research because not scientifically valid and not as complex as some other personality tests, but extremely widely used in personality testing and business management all over...

What street dogs taught me about fear

I’ve always been afraid of dogs. When I was younger, when I saw a dog walking down the street, I’d run inside the house. If I spotted a dog on a leash, I’d cross the street so I could keep my distance. Each time I visited someone’s house for the...

Life is about becoming who you always were

I’ve always been interested in ideas about life, often based in psychology or philosophy. In my twenties, inspiring ideas were meaningful to work through problems or just to become more fulfilled. Besides cigarettes and cd’s, most of my money went to books. One of the most interesting psychotherapists I read about...